Fundamental Behavior 14 – Invest in relationships
“Strong relationships enable us to more successfully work through difficult issues and challenging times,” but there is even more that good relationship will bring to us.
A couple of weeks ago, our YCA colleague David Bethea was talking to the YCA team about “Tips for boosting our moods” and he introduced an interesting video from TED Talks about the research of what makes a good life.
This is a study of tracking the lives of 724 men for 75 years, asking about their work, their home lives, and their health. The researchers learned 3 lessons from this 75 year of study.
Lesson 1: Social connections are really good for us and loneliness kills.
It turns out that people who are more socially connected to family, to friends, to community are happier, physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less well connected.
Lesson 2: It’s not just the number of friends you have, but it’s the quality of the relationships that matters.
Living in the midst of conflict is really bad for our health and living in the midst of good, warm relationships is protective.
Lesson 3: Good relationships don’t just protect our bodies. They protect our brains.
People who are in relationships where they really feel they can count on the other person in times of need—those people’s memories stay sharper and longer.
You can see the entire video here: TED Talks: what makes a good life lessons from the longest study on happiness
This past year was very challenging for most of us. Many of us had a hard time not being able to see our families, friends, or coworkers in person for a long time and it still continues. Because it’s not easy to see each other, it’s more important to care for others. When I struggled with handling various problems caused by the pandemic, I was alone and overwhelmed, but there was always somebody that helped me. I’m very appreciative of my connections and relationships that I have been built in the past.
Although we are seeing the light of hope, we still need to be careful regarding the spread of Covid-19. Let’s utilize modern technology; there are many ways to build and nurture a relationship without actually being in the same place with each other.
I’m looking forward to seeing you all in person in the near future.
Expatriate HR Manager
YKK Corporation of America